Relationships...

Okay, so before I begin this, I would just like to let everyone know, that everything I am about to type here is things that I've learned from books, from what people have told me, from what God has revealed to me, and on my own experiences and thoughts. So let's begin! I'm going to break this up into four sections. Books, people, me, and God! But, in this blog I'm only going to talk about the books, because this blog would be super long if I talked about all four sections, so yeah!

Books
Yup, so let's begin with the book of Song of Songs, or Song of Solomon, as my bible calls the book. So this book, i've read quite a few times. I, personally, like this book, It's definitaly in my top, but anyways, this book talks about the relationship between a man and a woman. But, most people see it as the relationship between God and His people, and/or, the relationship between Jesus and the church. The way i've looked at the book is in the way where it describes the relationship between a man and a woman. One of my favorite verses in this book is Song of Songs 2:2 "Like a lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters." What this is basically saying is that, for a man, his love, the love that God will give to him, is going to stick out from other girls. She is going to stick out in a good way, not stick out in way where they are wearing short skirts, tank tops, well, you get the idea. She is going to lift him up in the Lord, and he is going to do the same for her. Song of Songs 2:3 "Like an apple tree among the trees of the woods, So is my beloved among the sons. I sat down in his shade with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste." And it will be the same for you girls out there. This man that God has given to you will stick out. But you always have to remember, make sure that it is love, not lust. One way that you can make sure that it is love, is to think about how you think about him/her. For example, when I liked this girl, now believe me on this, I had pure thoughts of her, most of the time. It's really hard to explain why I say most of the time, but i would'nt think about having sex with her or anything like that. Trust me, as God as my witness, I am not lying. But yeah, if you think about this girl/guy with lust, as in, you think about having sex with them or doing anything slightly related to that, then it's lust. But if all you think about is having a healthy relationship based on God with them, and how you would love to spend the rest of your life with them, then it's love. Song of Songs 3:5 "I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, By the gazelles or by the does of the field, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases." This verse says it all. Do not stir up love until it pleases. Again, i repeat, do not mistake love with lust!

Now, another book I am going to talk about is Purity by Kris Valloton. This is such an awesome book, and I recommend a lot of people to read it. Also to listen to his message called Purity. Anyways, I love how Kris explains why we should keep our virginity till marriage. He puts it this way. Everyday is a battle against lust. The enemy is constantly taunting you, and it's your job to fight your sexual urges. It's natural for us to like some one. Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they will become on flesh." Man and Woman are meant for each other. Also, God gave us a sex drive. And the reason why, I think, He did so is so that we have something to give to our love on that wedding night. I mean think about it. We all struggle with lust, and we fight against it everyday. Imagine giving your love something that you fought for your whole life? I think that would be pretty awesome. And why not your virginity? Like i've said a million times, your fighting for your virginity everyday. But, if you've already lost your virginity, it's alright. You know why? Because God can restore your virginity, if you want Him to. There is nothing that God can't restore, or heal, or even do. He is the creator of all things, He can do anything! Kris Valotton has testimonies of girls getting their hymen restored, just from praying for them! That's pretty sick! (as in good, for people who are literal out there.) Anyways, before I end this blog, i would just like to state, that there are so much more in the book Purity. So please, take the time to read it :D

Also, did you know that the church doesn't really like to talk about sex, so much as relationships. It's not really their fault, but it's the American culture. As a matter of fact, the Bible talks openly about sex. What I believe, is that the more you know about something, the better. The more you try to hide something, or repress it, the worst it'll become. Did you know that the church has a 1% higher divorce rate than the world? There are three major reasons for divorce, 1) sex 2)money 3)communcation. We never talk about sex&marriage in church, and we rarely talk about money, unless it's about the tithe. We don't teach on these things. Or speak on it. Again, the Bible talks openly about all of these things. But it's not the churches fault. It's our culture. Our culture doesn't allow, what the Bible allows.

(Everything I just said in the last paragraph is everything Kris Vallotton said. I just thought people should know this)