Relationships...pt.2

(This is super long, so, I don't know, if you don't really want to read it all, please read the stuff I highlight.)
(This is a continuation of the last blog, for people who didn't know that.)

Okay, so now onto what people have told me about relationships. Come to think about it, this is mostly from one person, with a little bit from other people. But anyways, let's continue.

So, I was kind of having trouble with this one girl. I repeat was. Anyways, I don't think she had any idea I liked her, I kind of acted like I didn't but yeah. I liked her since the 1st time I OFFICIALLY met her. We met once before but that was kind of informally because, well, if i went into more detail some people out there would know who she is so yeah, let's just leave it at that. Well, I had liked her for the longest time, and, she stuck out to me. Random. Of all the girls you would think I would like, she would kind of be the last one I think, but anyways. She was on my mind a lot, and it was kind of getting in the way. I have no idea if it was Jesus trying to tell me something or if it was satan tormenting me but either way, I kind of wanted it to stop. (again, it's naturally for ALL of us to like someone, or atleast, used to like some one.)

So I had lunch one day with my friend Eryck, and explained to him what was going on, as well as some other stuff but that's something totally different. He gave me some really good advice. For one, I'm still young. 16 years young. So, what he told me was to focus more on my relationship with God. And that is totally true! That should be the first thing you should work on before moving onto a relationship with someone else. Especially me, being a young christian and all. (I recently just became a christian. Been one since May of 2008, but I feel like i've been with God my whole life!) If your not strong with God before you begin to start a relationship with someone else, it may work out, but I believe that half the time it won't. For guys, 1) they either begin to worship their girl, 2) look for answers(validation) in them that only God can give them, and/or, 3) tend to mistreat them. 1. What men, and women, really need in their heart, is God. He is the only one that can fill up the emptiness inside a man and womans heart. When men don't realize that, they begin to believe that it is the woman, and that's when they begin to seek out answers in them. 2. The answers they seek are from the question they ask. For instance, a man usually doesn't feel like he's enough for his girl. I'm not saying that all men think this way, but i believe atleast half do. They are usually asking, am I the right one for you? Do you think you could find someone better? I don't think I'm good enough, am I? Am I a man?Stuff like this. In the end, the girl gets tired of these questions, and most likely breaks up with the guy. This also usually causes trouble in relationships. The reality is that God is the only one who can truly answer these questions. The girl can say yes every single time but the guy will still feel as if he is not enough. 3. Yup, some men do mistreat girls. They even sometimes get the idea that girls are only meant for one thing, and are seen as objects. And that's because they don't know God. For girls, if they aren't strong with God, they 1) usually stick with a guy even though he's a bad person, and/or 2) look for value in other people. 1 & 2. It's true. I've heard of girls sticking with their guys even though they mistreat them. And its usually because of one core reason, I believe, and that's they are looking to see if they are worth anything to anyone. This is usually because as a child, they never got love from their fathers. So they look for love in guys, even ones that mistreat them. They'll do anything to know that they are lovely and beautiful. And i just want to state this right now. ALL GIRLS OUT THERE, ALL OF GOD'S DAUGHTERS, ARE BEAUTIFUL. NO MATTER WHAT PEOPLE TELL YOU, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. DON'T THINK THIS IS ME SAYING THIS, BECAUSE IT'S GOD TELLING YOU THAT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

Another thing Eryck told me was that I am young and shouldn't worry much about girls. I still have a whole future, so I should just focus on God, and other things like school, church, family, friends, etc. I believe he is right to an extent. I shouldn't worry much about a girl right now, and I should wait till a more proper age, but, there are certain cases where being in that relationship now is just right. The reason I say this is because maybe, just maybe, if God has put that special one for you right now, then maybe there's a reason. I believe that if that is so, the reason is so that that person will bring you closer to the Lord. You both will begin to push, and lift each other up to God. That's what I believe. I don't know. Just make sure that if you're in this current position, to make sure that it is God's will, and not your own.

Okay, from what my friend Whitney told me, who by the way is one of the most awesomest person on earth. She said not to develop a relationship with the opposite sex where you both tell each other everything. Unless you both are planning to have a future together as a couple. Reason being is because the people who should know about all of those things is God, and your future love. No one else. Plus, when you do develop a relationship like that, one of you is eventually going to fall for the other, and either you two become a couple, or it ruins your guys relationship. I, for one, developed that kind of relationship with a few girls, and now, my relationship with ALL those girls are ruined really. We barely ever talk to each other now, and for me it sucks so much, especially with one particular friend. Sucks so much.

If you come to think about it, a lot of the songs guys write now a days are about girls. That's because a girl has taken God's spot in their heart. They begin to worship her with songs. Just thought people should know that.